Everyone else moves on

Life is so funny sometimes. Its funny to me how quick others move on. In the beginning, everyone is so concerned about you and they call often, send cards, flowers, food, and other gifts. But as the weeks pass by, the phone calls cease, the cards stop coming and the gifts...well, they start to collect dust. I can't say that I expect people to not move on, but sometimes I stop and think to myself, "how could people so easily forget", as tragic as the situation was, how could they just get on with their life like normal. Then, I have to snap back into reality and I remind myself that it didn't happen to "them", it happened to me. That's how everyone else can move on so easy.
It is, however, just a tad hurtful to not be checked on as often and to not really have others ask in a sincere way, "how are you really doing"? I am in no way mad at anyone or directing this toward a specific person, I'm just sharing my "real thoughts" with you about how I feel as a mother who has lost a child. If you have a friend who has lost a baby, it can be 2 or 3 years later, you should still call from time to time and ask them how they are dealing, because just like everyone else moves on, we move on as well, but at a much, much slower pace. I like to call it an adjustment period. I'm not a firm believer in time healing all wounds, because some wounds get worse and some better with time. Life goes in cycles, and any day I could be at the good part or the bad part of life's cycle. That's why its nice to check and see where I or maybe some other mother or father is in their journey. Don't just forget about us and assume that things are good, because you never know. And while we have to move on, it is a bit harder to move on after you have lost the one who was literally a part of you.